A lot has happened in the 2 years since DJ and MJ were born in India. India has implemented the discriminatory regulation that surrogacy can only be offered to heterosexual couples married for more than two years. Gay couples looked toward Thailand as an alternative only to have it shut down amidst military coup and scandal last year. The next destination, Nepal, was hit with an earthquake earlier this year, and yesterday a court in Nepal suspended commercial surrogacy pending further review. The options for gay couples seeking to become parents through surrogacy have become much more limited, and so my 2013 comparison of international vs. domestic surrogacy is no longer accurate. International surrogacy has become a treacherous path to parenthood that I cannot in good conscience recommend because of possible disastrous situations like this one and this one. I will be taking down the comparison page and leave the original 2013 entry in my archive for historical purposes. Surrogacy in the US remains a safe option, and costs have decreased somewhat as more agencies come into operation to compete for clientele.
Josh and I are forever grateful for our positive surrogacy experiences in both California and India. We are saddened that the options for gay couples hoping to become parents through surrogacy around the world have dwindled so. I can only hope that in places like the UK, Israel, and Australia, their respective governments can recognize the extraordinary lengths gay couples have gone to have children, and better allow for well-regulated fair practices of surrogacy closer to home.