In recent years , I have been disappointed by some sensational portrayals of gay parents and surrogacy in the media. That is why I was so pleased to be given the opportunity recently to screen a new documentary The Guys Next Door.
This documentary chronicles the journey of gay couple Erik and Sandro with their friend Rachel, who offers to help them build their family by acting as gestational surrogate for them not once, but twice!
Erik and Sandro very honestly discuss their feelings on parenthood, and I know this because Josh and I have had many similar conversations. The selflessness of Rachel is so amazing, a quality I see in so many women who choose to become surrogates.
For those interested, it is now available to watch for free on Amazon Prime, or just $2.99 for rental. Check it out!
With that said and having now read the entire book, I think Eric Rosswood did a marvelous job. I really do wish a book like this existed when Josh and I were originally considering our options for family building.
It is very well organized into five sections covering different paths to parenthood for same sex couples: Open Adoption, Foster Care, Surrogacy, Assisted Reproduction, and Co-Parenting. Each section includes multiple representative firsthand stories by gay and lesbian people that went through it themselves. Each story takes you on an emotional roller coaster toward parenthood that keeps your attention while at the same time informing you of the highs and lows that may occur along the way. I think that same sex couples hoping to have children will have better understanding of practical issues, but especially the emotional complexities that come with each approach after reading these personal stories. Other books may focus on a single approach, or read more like a clinical manual. This book is warm and intimate.
For the detail oriented, the end of the book comes complete with multiple appendices that comment on legal issues, benefits and challenges, and questions to ask yourself when considering each of the five different paths to parenthood.