In the months leading up to this momentous day in history, I have engaged in an
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Brilliantly thought out and perfectly written. You are truly blessed with a mind trained to help and heal human beings, plus love in your heart for your mate and beautiful children. Those remote online detractors lack your respect for humanity.
Keep the faith, my nephews.
Thank you, Uncle Marty!
I can tell you from personal experience that what’s just happened is monumental (in a practical, everyday sense.) I was in Spain when gay marriage was legalized years ago, and now I’m in France where it was legalized recently.
The before and after is dramatic. Suddenly they have nothing to hide behind. The problem before was that homophobia could be masked by 1001 excuses. The word marriage, the trauma we’d cause the children with all those pretty flower arrangements in shiny vases, how our Mies van der Rohe Barcelona chairs were a risk to babies because of the sharp edges…
The marriage affair puts an end to all of that. They can’t make money on it through fundraising anymore, they can’t use it as a political football- and that’s a huge part of the issue: exploitation by opportunists. Some very hateful people remain, but in a world that’s not very interested in listening to their crazy-talk.
Both in Spain and now in France, in less than a year, homophobia became absolutely unacceptable. In fact, I’d say we’re treated especially well, because the anti-gay crowd was so vile, everyone else has tried to compensate for it.
When we got married last year, everyone at the town hall wanted to participate. The mayor performed the ceremony, one of the witnesses was the deputy mayor. They even organized a champagne breakfast for us (and paid for it). And I’m talking about middle-of-nowhere rural France.
All that said, our job isn’t over. Extremist communities still exist and we’ve got to make sure lgbt children born into them have people they can reach out to.
But meanwhile, enjoy the victory 😉
Thank you. I wholeheartedly hope that the same cultural changes that have happened in Spain and France come to pass in the US as well.
I also agree that the work isn’t done. We can’t stop until LGBT people are treated fairly around the world. I find the shift in conservative focus toward trans issues and children troubling. The conservatives have always wrongly accused the gays of “recruiting” but it seems the reverse is true. I have to balance my desire to fight for equality with my duty to protect my children (while they are young) from these people with sinister intentions.
Brilliantly thought out and perfectly written. You are truly blessed with a mind trained to help and heal human beings, plus love in your heart for your mate and beautiful children. Those remote online detractors lack your respect for humanity.
Keep the faith, my nephews.
Thank you, Uncle Marty!
I can tell you from personal experience that what’s just happened is monumental (in a practical, everyday sense.) I was in Spain when gay marriage was legalized years ago, and now I’m in France where it was legalized recently.
The before and after is dramatic. Suddenly they have nothing to hide behind. The problem before was that homophobia could be masked by 1001 excuses. The word marriage, the trauma we’d cause the children with all those pretty flower arrangements in shiny vases, how our Mies van der Rohe Barcelona chairs were a risk to babies because of the sharp edges…
The marriage affair puts an end to all of that. They can’t make money on it through fundraising anymore, they can’t use it as a political football- and that’s a huge part of the issue: exploitation by opportunists. Some very hateful people remain, but in a world that’s not very interested in listening to their crazy-talk.
Both in Spain and now in France, in less than a year, homophobia became absolutely unacceptable. In fact, I’d say we’re treated especially well, because the anti-gay crowd was so vile, everyone else has tried to compensate for it.
When we got married last year, everyone at the town hall wanted to participate. The mayor performed the ceremony, one of the witnesses was the deputy mayor. They even organized a champagne breakfast for us (and paid for it). And I’m talking about middle-of-nowhere rural France.
All that said, our job isn’t over. Extremist communities still exist and we’ve got to make sure lgbt children born into them have people they can reach out to.
But meanwhile, enjoy the victory 😉
Thank you. I wholeheartedly hope that the same cultural changes that have happened in Spain and France come to pass in the US as well.
I also agree that the work isn’t done. We can’t stop until LGBT people are treated fairly around the world. I find the shift in conservative focus toward trans issues and children troubling. The conservatives have always wrongly accused the gays of “recruiting” but it seems the reverse is true. I have to balance my desire to fight for equality with my duty to protect my children (while they are young) from these people with sinister intentions.