To end the summer, we decided to take the family on a 4 day cruise to the Bahamas. Wrangling all 4 kids on the boat proved challenging at times. Without internet or cell phones, our usual strategy of splitting the kids up while staying in close communication with each other was much tougher. Nonetheless, we had fun on some of the shore excursions exploring the islands.
After boarding at the Port of Miami
The kids watching through the window while pulling out of port
Signing the kids up for activities on the boat.
Diana wanted to keep the hat
Visiting the nature center
On the beach near Freeport
MJ passed out on the bench after the beach
Hanging out with the locals
AJ is getting his name woven into a hat
DJ enjoyed the royal kid parade on the boat
On a semi submarine in Nassau
The kids could see all the ocean creatures while staying dry
Beautiful views of fish and coral reef
From Bahamas with love!
M & M & M
On the beach building a sand castle
On the beach at Great Stirrup Cay
Boys getting ready to snorkel with stingrays!
JJ holding a stingray and MJ getting brave petting
AJ with stingray
DJ was scared but she held a starfish instead
Right before disembarking, AJ got stuck in a bathroom stall with a broken lock. They had to break the door down!
AJ and JJ will be starting 4th grade in less than 2 weeks, and MJ and DJ will be starting preschool! Stay tuned…
July is a hectic month for our household because the kids’ birthdays are so close together. AJ and JJ turned 9 this year the day after DJ and MJ turned 3. I am looking forward to the day I can get away with having one birthday celebration for all 4 kids, but in the meantime Josh feels duty bound to throw at least 2 separate parties.
This year AJ and JJ invited their 3rd grade classes over to our home for a pool party. Being that AJ and JJ are in two separate classes, the party was well attended with more than 20 kids and their parents enjoying our pool and a rented inflatable waterslide.
The following weekend we took the kids to Orlando. It was sobering to see that the parks were not as busy as they usually are this time of year, probably due to recent events in the city. The boys had pirate makeovers on Saturday, and DJ had a princess beauty appointment on Sunday. I thought I was being smart bringing her own Cinderella dress from home, but once DJ realized she wasn’t getting one of the new dresses on display in the lobby, she refused to sit down in the salon chair until I bought her a new pair of Cinderella shoes to match! DJ and MJ saw their first move in the theater, Finding Dory, and loved it. On Monday, we relaxed in the lazy river at Blizzard Beach and the older boys enjoyed the waterslides.
The weekend after that was our 2nd and final birthday celebration of the year, for DJ and MJ. Since they were born, I have been calling AJ and JJ “the boys” and DJ and MJ “the babies.” But at 3 years of age, I’m not really sure I can call them babies anymore…
Growing up in New York my family would gather almost every weekend at Aunt Nancy and Uncle Roger’s house to have dinner and play mah jongg betting quarters into the night. These gatherings were very routine and content. We enjoyed spending time with each other. I imagine there were several times that seated around me at the mah jongg table for four were my Grandmother, my Uncle Roger, and my Uncle Mike.
Uncle Roger died last year after a long battle with cancer. Aunt Nancy sold the house in New York and moved to California last month. About a week after she left, my Uncle Mike was a pedestrian hit by a car. He lingered comatose for about a week before he died on a Monday, and my Grandmother who had been suffering from Alzheimer’s died three days later that Thursday. Although she was very advanced in her dementia, my family thinks she wanted to be with her son when she was told the news.
All of this loss in my extended family, especially the sudden loss of Uncle Mike, has taught me a lesson to cherish every moment with my family. I stop myself from getting upset over relatively trivial things. I should be grateful for the time I have with Josh, JJ, AJ, DJ, and MJ because I never know when we could be walking down the street and they could be taken from me in an instant.
This photo was taken just before AJ and JJ were born. Three are no longer with us.
I am so happy to announce that my sister Annie and brother in law Rahul welcomed their first baby this week. My sister toughed out a difficult delivery and baby boy L is doing great. Rahul and Annie have already had some good practice helping us with AJ and JJ when we took two extended trips to India a few years ago, so I know they will be great parents.
Annie and Baby L
New Daddy Rahul
Today is the official launch day of Eric Rosswood’s new book, Journey to Same-Sex Parenthood. I was able to receive an advance copy and wrote a glowing review for it on Amazon. Of course, I am somewhat biased given the fact that I contributed our family story to this collection of personal stories about gay and lesbian parents.
With that said and having now read the entire book, I think Eric Rosswood did a marvelous job. I really do wish a book like this existed when Josh and I were originally considering our options for family building.
It is very well organized into five sections covering different paths to parenthood for same sex couples: Open Adoption, Foster Care, Surrogacy, Assisted Reproduction, and Co-Parenting. Each section includes multiple representative firsthand stories by gay and lesbian people that went through it themselves. Each story takes you on an emotional roller coaster toward parenthood that keeps your attention while at the same time informing you of the highs and lows that may occur along the way. I think that same sex couples hoping to have children will have better understanding of practical issues, but especially the emotional complexities that come with each approach after reading these personal stories. Other books may focus on a single approach, or read more like a clinical manual. This book is warm and intimate.
For the detail oriented, the end of the book comes complete with multiple appendices that comment on legal issues, benefits and challenges, and questions to ask yourself when considering each of the five different paths to parenthood.
I encourage any gay or lesbian couples interested in pursuing parenthood to check this book out today!