Our summer began with back to back birthday celebrations, and ended with some quality time with both sides of our extended family. Both sets of twins had birthday pool parties at our home on consecutive weekends. We enjoyed summer day camp where I was able to drop all four kids off in the same place for 7 weeks before DJ and MJ start elementary school, and JJ and AJ move on to middle school. I think I was more excited about that than the kids were. Next, we had a family reunion with Josh’s side of the family in upstate New York. Finally, we went on a Caribbean cruise and brought along my newly retired parents. It was an enjoyable summer, and now we are looking forward to the next big challenges…kindergarten and 6th grade!
In recent years , I have been disappointed by some sensational portrayals of gay parents and surrogacy in the media. That is why I was so pleased to be given the opportunity recently to screen a new documentary The Guys Next Door.
This documentary chronicles the journey of gay couple Erik and Sandro with their friend Rachel, who offers to help them build their family by acting as gestational surrogate for them not once, but twice!
Erik and Sandro very honestly discuss their feelings on parenthood, and I know this because Josh and I have had many similar conversations. The selflessness of Rachel is so amazing, a quality I see in so many women who choose to become surrogates.
For those interested, it is now available to watch for free on Amazon Prime, or just $2.99 for rental. Check it out!
From very early on in our relationship, we have been very committed to each other. On our 1st anniversary, Josh got us a pair of simple gold bands for us to wear. Seeing us with these rings, I think many people assumed over the years that we were already married. We never saw the need to have a wedding ceremony because we were already very committed to each other, and the only additional benefit we sought was legal recognition.
When marriage equality finally came nationwide in 2015, we did not immediately marry because we did not want to rush, and because we wanted the date to have personal significance. With a new administration in place we have felt the need to gain better legal protection for our family. Our 20th anniversary, March 31st, felt like the perfect date for our wedding.
The wedding turned out beautifully and as planned. Josh and I wanted to blend elements from our Jewish and Chinese heritage into the ceremony and reception. We also wanted to have our 4 kids play an active role. More than 180 of our friends and family gathered on that night.
Photos from that night have been trickling back in the weeks since, and I will update this post if more come in.