In recent years , I have been disappointed by some sensational portrayals of gay parents and surrogacy in the media. That is why I was so pleased to be given the opportunity recently to screen a new documentary The Guys Next Door.
This documentary chronicles the journey of gay couple Erik and Sandro with their friend Rachel, who offers to help them build their family by acting as gestational surrogate for them not once, but twice!
Erik and Sandro very honestly discuss their feelings on parenthood, and I know this because Josh and I have had many similar conversations. The selflessness of Rachel is so amazing, a quality I see in so many women who choose to become surrogates.
For those interested, it is now available to watch for free on Amazon Prime, or just $2.99 for rental. Check it out!
Like every year, I am most thankful for my family and friends. But this year especially, I am thankful that my parents are now both retired and free to enjoy all their grandchildren. That includes my sister’s family, because she and my brother in law are expecting another next year!
We had a great Halloween this year. The costume theme was Justice League. Even Tyson and I joined in on the super hero action! DJ and MJ also had their favorite Disney characters that they changed into for some of the events of the season.
From very early on in our relationship, we have been very committed to each other. On our 1st anniversary, Josh got us a pair of simple gold bands for us to wear. Seeing us with these rings, I think many people assumed over the years that we were already married. We never saw the need to have a wedding ceremony because we were already very committed to each other, and the only additional benefit we sought was legal recognition.
When marriage equality finally came nationwide in 2015, we did not immediately marry because we did not want to rush, and because we wanted the date to have personal significance. With a new administration in place we have felt the need to gain better legal protection for our family. Our 20th anniversary, March 31st, felt like the perfect date for our wedding.
The wedding turned out beautifully and as planned. Josh and I wanted to blend elements from our Jewish and Chinese heritage into the ceremony and reception. We also wanted to have our 4 kids play an active role. More than 180 of our friends and family gathered on that night.
Photos from that night have been trickling back in the weeks since, and I will update this post if more come in.
Save the date cards
Wedding license at clerks office
We added 4 diamonds to each band
Our social media hashtag and table centerpieces.
Sand ceremony, 7 Jewish blessings and we broke the glass
AJ and JJ were so handsome as best men.
MJ dutifully walked up the aisle as ringbearer, and then ran back to us.
DJ was so excited to be flower girl, she tossed all her petals at once!
Two grooms coming down the aisle
We wrote our own vows.
Sealed with a kiss
Family photo taken right after the ceremony
It is customary for the Chinese bride to wear red silk, so we wore red silk scarves.
Lion dancers and drummers opened the reception
David white wine or Josh red.
Double happiness cake topper
Our favorite flavors. Almond cake, Coconut cake
In March of 1997, Josh and I started dating. After the first couple dates, I knew there was something very special developing between us. On March 31st, we went out and stayed up all night walking in the streets of NYC and talking about “us.” We have always regarded March 31st as our anniversary. Tonight, it will become our wedding anniversary!